Hello Ladies,
There has been a looming problem coming between women's friendships everywhere!!!!
I don't know if its all the break ups that's been going on, or the recession, or maybe just depression over the way the world is going. Idk but women are becoming Very Needy!!!!
I mean its like you have two romantic relationships and frankly...its a bit much!
The constant calling and if you don't answer the frantic texting of: where are you? why you not answering? can I come over? come over here? wanna go to the park? can I spend the night? why are you avoiding me? I'm outside!!!
classic stalker behaviour!!!
I mean GODDAMN am I f%cking you!, and in my case I'm married and that doesn't stop it, Oh yes, Ive been through this many times...I was told the flock & cling to me because I'm so strong in my life. Well i didn't sign up for that, so I nip it in the bud!
It's sad but there are some friends who feel like an emotional ball and chain. They’re always in need of one thing or another: money, favors, help, coddling, praise---or simply more time than you have to give. Like a wailing toddler, they can be so demanding that their friendship tires you and weighs you down. Who needs that kind of friend? Many women do.
*People who like feeling needed---or once liked the feeling (even if they don’t anymore)
*People who feel like they aren’t worthy of healthier, more balanced relationships
*People who are stuck---either feeling angry or sorry for their needy friend---and feel unable to get out of it But if you have begun to recognize that a female friendship is a drag, you’ve taken the first step in relieving yourself of the burden.
*People who feel like they aren’t worthy of healthier, more balanced relationships
*People who are stuck---either feeling angry or sorry for their needy friend---and feel unable to get out of it But if you have begun to recognize that a female friendship is a drag, you’ve taken the first step in relieving yourself of the burden.
*HOW-TO UNLOAD:
*Change the nature of your friendship by learning to say “no” and setting boundaries (e.g. “Even though we are both single, I don’t want to spend every Friday night together.”)
*Change the nature of your friendship by learning to say “no” and setting boundaries (e.g. “Even though we are both single, I don’t want to spend every Friday night together.”)
*Tell her that you have to tend to your own needs (or those of anyone else you can think of)
*Slip away - Spend less time with her and add other less demanding friends to your inventory
**Take a relationship sabbatical or hiatus from the friendship (you deserve it!)
If it's that bad, simply cut loose!
If it's that bad, simply cut loose!
Remember, the term toxic friendships refers to relationships that are consistently negative and draining. It is the pattern, not the one-time or occasional lapses in the balance of needing that occurs between good friends. If your truly needy friend has been that way for some time, the real possibilities of changing the relationship verge on hopeless. These are people whose needs can never be satiated. No matter what you give, what you do, how much, or how often, it will never be enough. Since character tends to endure, this person probably treats other people the same way she treats you. It’s likely that many of her friends have probably already dropped out of the picture and that’s why she is so dependent on you! Be stern and remember this is your friendship too, so you should be happy as well.
Choa!
