FORGIVE ME?

OKAY PEOPLE , I'M BACK WITH YET ANOTHER CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC, (SEE I TOLD Y'ALL I CAN COMPREHEND THINGS OTHER THAN FASHION) 2ND CHANCES / SECOND CHANCES......NOW I'M ALL FOR FORGIVING, IF I FEEL AS IF YOU DESERVE IT. BUT I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THIS SECOND CHANCE NOTION. I CANNOT GRASP THE PAIN OF YOU BREAKING MY HEART, THEN HAVING YOU HOLD THE SHATTERED, TAPED UP, PIECES ONCE AGAIN? AND IT DOESN'T MATTER IF IT WAS A FIRST LOVE, BOYFRIEND, GIRLFRIEND, BEST FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBERS..... ITS ALL THE SAME. PAIN IS PAIN - FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS. AND WITH THAT BEING SAID TRUST IS TRUST AND HOW CAN YOU TRULY FORGIVE SOMEONE BUT NEVER TRUST THEN AGAIN? IS THAT POSSIBLE? (NOW THE FORGIVENESS I GIVE TO YOU IN MY HEART, SO I MAY GO ON WITH MY LIFE & HEALING) IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT, THAT COMES REGARDLESS OF OUR STATUS BUT WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK? I'M NOT JUDGEMENTAL JUST GROUNDED ON MY BELIEFS AND WHAT WORKS FOR ME.

*CAN YOU FORGIVE WITHOUT GIVING ALL OF YOU? IN 2010 HAVE YOU FORGAVE? WILL YOU?

THE UGLY TRUTH INTRODUCTION!

In my latest mood that accompanies my latest personality. I would like to introduce to you my newest blog creation FROM Fashiontolive called the Ugly Truth. ENJOY!!!

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Pillow Princess ;
A person, usually in a of a homosexual/bisexual context, who wants to experience pleasure from oral sex, but who is unwilling to reciprocate.

This is not a good sexual behavior practice, for anyone. Although in some relationships this is forced upon the other partner. I don't understand that act in some modern relationships, That is an act, I'm sure not to follow. And those king of situations how does the other partner get pleasure ? Well to me I think its down right selfish and if I might add rude...its like being invited to a party and arriving empty handed, just bad manners. At times like this different position's should be tried, One that pops into mind is the 69 position (Sixty-nine or 69, also known by its French name soixante-neuf (sixty-nine), is a group of sex positions in which two people align themselves so that each person's mouth is near the other's genitals, simultaneously performing oral sex. The participants are thus mutually inverted like the numerals 6 and 9, hence the name. This position can involve any combination of sexes) This position done right can be pleasurable for both partners...So I advise to go home, stretch, get limber in a hot bath, message one another in oils and slowly work yourself into the position then BON APPETITE'

HAPPY EATING!!!!

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The battle of the sexes heats up in Columbia Pictures' comedy 'The Ugly Truth.' Abby Richter (Katherine Heigl) is a romantically challenged morning show producer whose search for Mr. Perfect has left her hopelessly single. She's in for a rude awakening when her bosses team her with Mike Chadway (Gerard Butler), a hardcore TV personality who promises to spill the ugly truth on what makes men and women tick.

OKAY SO I WENT AND SEEN THIS MOVIE OVER THE WEEKEND AND NOT ONLY WAS IT GOOD...IT WAS EYE OPENING!!!! AS TO HOW WOMEN THINK WITH THE HEART AND HEAD WHEN MEN AND WOMEN WHO THINK LIKE MEN DO NOT. FOR THE WOMAN EVERYTHING IS A EMOTION FELT DEEPLY, AS WELL AS CAREFULLY THOUGHT OUT. BUT FOR OUR COMPANIONS, IT'S JUST NOT THAT COMPLICATED...THEY ARE REALLY SIMPLE (FOR LACK OF A BETTER WORD) IN THINKING. NO REGRETS,NO EMOTION, JUST LOINS & TESTOSTERONE WITH HIDDEN MORALS OF THEIR NAGGING MOTHERS. SO NOW, I SEE HOW MANY OF MY PROBLEMS IN MY OWN MARRIAGE OCCUR, I SIMPLY DON'T KNOW WHEN TO "SHUT THE FUCK UP" I'M JUST AS NAGGING AS THE MOTHER THEY GOT AWAY FROM...AND LADIES NO ONE WANTS TO FUCK "MEAN MOMMY" (MIRANDA OF SATC)

SO I TRIED SOMETHING NEW AND TO MY SURPRISE IT WORKED & I'M LESS STRESSED OUT, SO HERE IT IS;

1: LET THEM MAKE THEIR OWN MISTAKES (ie: NO NAPKIN WHILE EATING RIBS) *IT WAS HARD!!

2: NO COMMENTS OR EYE ROLLING WHEN THEY FORGETS THINGS (ie: CELL PHONE)

3: LET THEM MAKE CHOICES (STROKE THEIR EGO) EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW THE OUTCOME (ie: I WANT A EXTRA FIRM MATTRESS...OUCH THIS IS TOO HARD)

4:ENJOY THEIR PROGRESS AND WORK ON YOU BECOMING LESS NAGGING (ie: NO DO THIS, NO NOT LIKE THAT STUPID) VERY BAD!!!

5: LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY MEANS FLAWS & ALL , AND FOR THAT YOUR HEART SHOULD SMILE (ie: YOU ARE NOT THE EASIEST TO GET ALONG WITH EITHER...ESPECIALLY IN THE MORNING!)

SO GO OUT AND WATCH THE MOVIE (PREFERABLY BY YOURSELF OR WITH GIRLFRIENDS) AND COME HOME AND LOVE YOUR MATE THE WAY YOUR SUPPOSE TO!!!

HAPPY "UGLY TRUTHS"!!!!

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Hello Ladies,

There has been a looming problem coming between women's friendships everywhere!!!!

I don't know if its all the break ups that's been going on, or the recession, or maybe just depression over the way the world is going. Idk but women are becoming Very Needy!!!!

I mean its like you have two romantic relationships and frankly...its a bit much!

The constant calling and if you don't answer the frantic texting of: where are you? why you not answering? can I come over? come over here? wanna go to the park? can I spend the night? why are you avoiding me? I'm outside!!!

classic stalker behaviour!!!

I mean GODDAMN am I f%cking you!, and in my case I'm married and that doesn't stop it, Oh yes, Ive been through this many times...I was told the flock & cling to me because I'm so strong in my life. Well i didn't sign up for that, so I nip it in the bud!

It's sad but there are some friends who feel like an emotional ball and chain. They’re always in need of one thing or another: money, favors, help, coddling, praise---or simply more time than you have to give. Like a wailing toddler, they can be so demanding that their friendship tires you and weighs you down. Who needs that kind of friend? Many women do.

*People who like feeling needed---or once liked the feeling (even if they don’t anymore)
*People who feel like they aren’t worthy of healthier, more balanced relationships
*People who are stuck---either feeling angry or sorry for their needy friend---and feel unable to get out of it But if you have begun to recognize that a female friendship is a drag, you’ve taken the first step in relieving yourself of the burden.

*HOW-TO UNLOAD:
*Change the nature of your friendship by learning to say “no” and setting boundaries (e.g. “Even though we are both single, I don’t want to spend every Friday night together.”)

*Tell her that you have to tend to your own needs (or those of anyone else you can think of)

*Slip away - Spend less time with her and add other less demanding friends to your inventory

**Take a relationship sabbatical or hiatus from the friendship (you deserve it!)
If it's that bad, simply cut loose!

Remember, the term toxic friendships refers to relationships that are consistently negative and draining. It is the pattern, not the one-time or occasional lapses in the balance of needing that occurs between good friends. If your truly needy friend has been that way for some time, the real possibilities of changing the relationship verge on hopeless. These are people whose needs can never be satiated. No matter what you give, what you do, how much, or how often, it will never be enough. Since character tends to endure, this person probably treats other people the same way she treats you. It’s likely that many of her friends have probably already dropped out of the picture and that’s why she is so dependent on you! Be stern and remember this is your friendship too, so you should be happy as well.

Choa!

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What is the long term effect of too much masterbation ?

Frequent masturbation and ejaculation (more than 3 times a week) stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions excessively, resulting in the over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. In other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively pratices masturbation. Note: Masturbation is a healthy sexual behavior. Like other behaviors, when over practiced or addicted it can lead to both psychological and physiological imbalances. The side effects of such changes to the body include: Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time Lower back pain Stress / Anxiety Thinning hair / Hair Loss Soft / Weak Erection Premature Ejaculation Eye floaters or fuzzy vision Groin / Testicular Pain Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone If above symptoms are experienced, you need to restore the balance of brain's acetylcholine / parasympathetic ratio, reduces the level of sex hormones in the body, and sedates sympathetic nervous function, or the symptoms would become worse.
Source(s):
www.herballove.com

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When Your Partner Cheats: Healing From Infidelity or Not!

Few events cause as much turmoil in a marriage as infidelity, which can reduce a marriage to rubble, shattering trust and creating a breeding ground for insecurity, mistrust and resentment.
Reliable statistics on the frequency of marital infidelity are hard to come by because affairs can't be objectively measured like divorce and marriage. Furthermore, researchers say there is only a few people that admit this act has happened to them.

One often-cited expert, Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth,(One of my healing books) estimates that 60 percent of husbands/spouses and 40 percent of wives will have an affair at some point in their marriage; however, less than 10 percent of people who have affairs divorce and marry their lovers.

Infidelity Is Not a Death Sentence, As painful and devastating as infidelity is, I think it is a wound that can be healed — slowly and maybe with an ass whooping. Couples who are coping with an affair: Infidelity is a sometimes treatable crisis. Sound like a monumental task? It is, It takes strength to trust the betrayed and betrayer can heal from infidelity just as slow as the relationship started, but because of my past relationship (with a chronic flirt and "alleged" cheat that never admitted cheating) I don't advocate staying together. I think it matters on how it was done, Was I disrespected in their act? Where the act took place?, How many times has the act occurred?, and Can I trust that this act wont happen again?....However, People are different and in my current marriage, I would probably give it another go based on those questions and could I live with the fact that, I took her back; No matter how bleak and dark things are at that moment I know it would be different. virtually marriages can be brought back form the brink of splitting up, with cooperation from both parties. First and foremost, there is no "quick fix" to repair the damage caused by unfaithfulness. The process takes time — often years — and you need a great deal of patience to handle the disappointment and disillusionment along the way. "Be prepared for many 'back to square ones,'"and setbacks will diminish over time.

What the Unfaithful Party Needs to Do:
Be brutally honest about the affair. The unfaithful has to be able to talk about the affair as often and in as much depth and detail as the partner desires. We as Women in particular, need to know why it happened. We feel that unless we uncover the root (cause of the affair), it could happen again. The truth also facilitates healing by short-circuiting the imagination. What the betrayed imagines took place is usually much worse than what actually imagined and at times visa verse. If talking about the affair is intensely uncomfortable, you may want to work with a family therapist or marriage counselor to get past initial minefields but definitely not family from either sides because they will always be for their family at the end of the day, and be prepared for a change in your mates behavior they may not be able to go back to the way things were that easily.

What the Couple Needs to Do:
Talk things out about the future needs and wants, be patient with each other as you both heal, and be prepared that getting back together may not be the best plan for your individual futures.

WHEN BACK FAT COMETH!!!!!!

OKAY LADIES, WE HAVE ALL MOSTLY BEEN INTRODUCED TO "BACK FAT" HOWEVER, WE ALL MOSTLY HIDE IT....WTF WAS THIS WOMAN THINKING NOT ONLY SHOWING BUT EMBRACING HER BACK FAT? THIS PERSON MUST NOT HAVE ANY FRIENDS,,,(NOT A ONE!) THERE IS NO WAY I COULD EVEN LET MY ARCH NEMESIS, GET AWAY WITH THIS MONSTROSITY. AND THE FASHION VIOLATOR KNOWS OF HER INFRACTION...LOOK AT HER BODY LANGUAGE, SHE LOOKS VERY UNCOMFORTABLE IN HER DIVA STANCE, BUT WAS STILL ABLE TO COORDINATE A BANANA CLIP TO GO WITH THE SHIRT THAT WAS MADE CLEARLY MADE FOR SOMEONE ELSE.

PLEASE LADIES DO NOT EMBRACE YOUR FLAWS LIKE THIS, LOVE YOURSELF AT HOME, ON VACATION OR IN THE SHOWER...EVERYBODY DOES NOT LOVE YOU, AS MUCH AS YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF. YOU HAVE VIOLATED THE FASHION TREND AND NOT TO MENTION THE ELASTICITY OF THIS SHIRT AND FOR THAT YOU WERE PUT ON BLAST! DO NOT FALL VICTIM TO CUTE CLOTHES THAT ARE NOT YOUR SIZE, MOVE ON TO YOUR SECTION AND ON YOUR WAY OUT PICK UP A CRISPY CREME OR A PAMPHLET FOR THE GYM....JUST DON'T WING IT FLAWS AND ALL.

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THE READY-MADE FAMILY........

OK SO BY NOW YOU ALL KNOW MY MOUTH AND HOW I STATE MY OPINIONS ON HERE.

I SIMPLY SAY NO! NO! NO!, I WOULD NEVER, EVER, NOT FOR THE "ME FIRST" FACTOR THAT PLAYS A BIG PART IN IT. ITS JUST A STICKY SITUATION TO BE INVOLVED WITH, PEOPLE ARE FUNNY ABOUT THERE KIDS AND HOW THEY WANT THEM TO BE CHASTISED. SEE I DON'T LIKE CHILDREN (EXCEPT MY FRIENDS OR FAMILIES) BUT EVEN THEN CLOSE ENOUGH IS TOO CLOSE.....I KNOW THAT SOUNDS SHADY BUT PEOPLE THAT HAVE CHILDREN EXPECT FOR THOSE OF US THAT ARE CHILDLESS & FABULOUS TO BE AS PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING AS THEY ARE ....AND NO THAT DOESN'T WORK FOR ME!

MY OWN CHILDREN =YES.......... MATES CHILDREN = NO.

SOME PEOPLE ARE SO STARVED FOR ANY KIND OF FEELING OF BELONGING THAT THEY JUMP RIGHT IN EYES WIDE SHUT, AND END UP BEING WITH THE KIDS MORE THEN THERE PARENT.

SOUNDS LIKE A SET UP ....DON'T FALL IN!!!!!! THAT'S JUST MY OPINION....

["IT'S ONLY ENTERTAINMENT" JAY-Z]

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How to meet and marry a billionaire
Money magazine's field guide to the mating habits of the ultra rich

Looking to marry a billionaire? Jean Chatzky tells TODAY host Meredith Vieira tips on how to date and get hitched to a big spender.

"Are you looking to fall for someone tall, dark — but most importantly — Very wealthy?
Marlys Harris, Money Magazine Senior Editor, explains what it takes to snag your very own Richie Rich:
Work hard, take risks, maybe build your own business. That's the traditional route to financial success. Of course, there's another highly traditional path to acquiring wealth that isn't talked about quite as much these days: Marry money. "

But okay......Real money. As in not a mere millionaire (a dime a dozen these days) but an honest-to-goodness billionaire - make that 10 figures after the dollar sign, PLEASE. True, it's not politically correct to go hunting for a marital meal ticket, But just for a moment imagine the life that could be yours if you did. Forget the fabulous baubles, designer clothing, and SHOES, cutting-edge electronics and palatial mansions that your golden goose - uhm I meant, Spouse - might heap upon you. Consider the more pragmatic bonuses of the good life. No more scrimping and scraping to make your annual Roth IRA contribution. No more working until you drop to ensure a comfortable retirement and get fired before you even get it. And no more worries about where your children will get into college (or how to pay for it). A seven-figure donation from your beloved to the school of your choice and your kids are in the door, even if they're no smarter than dry grapefruit. I'm Sold? Of course you are..... But how realistic is it for you, an ordinary wage slave with no more ties to the jet set than a business trip to Atlantic City last month, to even meet, much less marry, a billionaire? Well ladies I choose my choice, and with the options we have now out there its slim pickings, so pick well and just decide if you want The Prince and his White Horse or The Women's Liberation ("WE CAN DO IT") life.







HAPPY PICKING!!!!

FOR THOSE WHO INSIST TO WEB TALK...LET TALK

DISCLAIMER.....

TO ALL OF THOSE WHOM FLATTERS THEMSELVES IN THINKING THAT MY BLOG IS INTENDED FOR THEM....KUDOS FOR HAVING A CONSCIENCE OR A HAUNTING PAST. HOWEVER, I'M SORRY TO INFORM YOU THAT YOUR LIFE IS INFERIOR MATERIAL TO WASTE ON MY READERS. MY TIME DOES NOT CONSIST OF FOLLOWING YOU AROUND TO SAVE YOU FROM YOUR OWN ROTTEN, IMMORAL SOUL, BUT TO ONLY INFORM MY READERS OF MY LIFE AND ADVISE THEM IN SITUATIONS I HAVE EXPERIENCE IN. SO FOR THOSE WHO DECIDED TO TRY AND COME FOR ME, YOUR LIVING A WHOLE FANTASY LIFE THAT STILL DOESN'T AMOUNT A SMIDGEN TO MINE....SO ALLOW ME TO STOOP DOWN TO YOUR LEVEL OF CHILD'S PLAY, *BACK UP BITCHES, YOU DON'T WANT IT FROM ME. I AM INVINCIBLE TO YOUR PETTY WAYS OF DESTRUCTION, NO WEAPONS FORMED BEFORE ME SHALL PROSPER....SO YOU BEASTLY BROADS CAN BEAT IT WITH ALL THIS THIRD PARTY TALK, I IMPLORE YOU TO TRY IT, YOU ARE A BIG WEB TALKER, I'M DONE WITH ALL THE TYPING ....FROM THE CATHOLIC SCHOOL SKIRT AND SADDLE SHOES AROSE THAT BITCH!!!
AND I'M NOT HAVING IT, YOU WERE LET TO LIVE FROM THE BULLSHIT YOU DO AND HAVE DONE, I WANT NO PARTS FROM THAT...BECAUSE IT'S NOT MY BEEF, I HAVE NO BEEF WITH YOU BUT I CAN GUARANTEE I'AM NOT THAT LITTLE GIRL OR THE SOFT SPOKEN LADY THAT YOU ONCE KNEW. I MAKE NO THREATS ONLY PROMISES THAT IF YOU WANT IT, YOU WILL GET IT, I WILL SERVE YOU UP SOMETHING FIERCE FROM THE LIKES THAT YOU MAY NEVER RECOVER. I'M WARNING YOU, YOU GOT THE RIGHT ONE NOW...LEAVE ME ALONE!!!

THANK YOU !

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LADIES, LADIES,LADIES......WHAT IS WRONG WITH US AS A WHOLE. I' AM NOT HERE TO MAKE JUDGEMENT ON YOUR LIFE, BUT TO SHARE MY OPINION. NOW BE THAT AS IT MAY...FOR A SHORT TIME (APPROX. 9 DAYS) I WAS THE OTHER WOMAN....*INSERT VINCENT PRICE SHOCK MUSIC* BUT FOR MY WEEK AND TWO DAYS, I HAVE 9 YEARS. I' AM NO BETTER THAN ANYONE BUT AFTER MY ONE NIGHT AFFAIR WITH FRANKY (THAT WAS BROKEN UP, BUT STILL LIVING WITH THE X) I KNEW WHAT I WANTED ...I WAS HOOKED AND AFTER SHE PROFESSED THE SAME FEELINGS TO ME, I GAVE HER A WEEK TO TELL HER OR I WAS AKA THE ULTIMATUM. AND WE TOLD HER TOGETHER. THAT'S JUST MY LIFE. HOWEVER, YOU ALL OUT HERE IS DOING YALL SHIT GRIMMY......AND WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR CONSCIENCE...WHERE ARE YOUR MORALS, ESPECIALLY THE MARRIED ONES.....OK SO YOU F^CKED UP AND AFTER COCKTAILS YOU BECAME SLUTTY AND MADE OUT OR HAD SEX WITH THE MARRIED PERSON....AFTER THAT IT'S NOT OK TO CALL,TEXT,WRITE,VISIT, THAT PERSON....THEY ARE MARRIED. AND OKAY IF MAYBE THAT PERSON SAYS THEY FEEL THE SAME WAY AND WANTS OUT OF THEIR MARRIAGE....WELL HOW LONG ARE YALL WAITING, HAVING SEX, BEING THE OTHER WOMAN...THE ADULTERESS. IS IT WORTH IT, TO HAVE LONELY NIGHTS, NO SPECIAL OCCASIONS, AND IF SO YOU STILL LOOK DESPERATE, PATHETIC, AND INSECURE, AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE KNOWN TO EVERYONE AS "THE WHORE" MIGHT AS WELL BURN THAT SCARLET "A" IN YOUR CHEST YOURSELF. BUT SERIOUS LADIES DON'T YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE ONLY BEING USED, EVEN IF "MARRIED" SPENDS TIME WITH YOU, TAKES YOU TO DINNER, HAVES SEX WITH YOU, SAYS THEY LOVE YOU...IT'S ONLY BECAUSE THEY ARE MAD AT THEIR SPOUSE OR THEY ARE FEELING INSECURE THAT DAY,WEEK,MONTH,YEAR WHATEVER....YOU WILL ALWAYS JUST BE "SECOND BEST" THE FLUFFER ON THE MOVIE SITE OF A PORN*(THE WHORE THAT SICKS UNTIL THEY ARE HARD FOR THE WOMAN STARRING IN THE MOVIE)

I SAY ALL OF THIS JUST TO SAY TO WANT MORE FOR YOURSELVES...GET MARRIED, BE SINGLE & FABULOUS, GET A CAREER, GET A HOBBY OTHER THAN THAT OF SOMEONE ELSE PARTNER,MAN,WOMAN,GIRLFRIEND,BOYFRIEND,WIFE, OR HUSBAND, IN THE LONG RUN ITS NOT WORTH IT BECAUSE IF THEY WANTED TO BE WITH YOU.... THEY WOULD HAVE TOOK THAT *ULTIMATUM IMMEDIATELY AND YALL WOULD BE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP NOW!

BE GOOD TO YOURSELF!!!!

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TO BLOW OR NOT TO BLOW!!!!!!

OK, HOW MANY WOMEN (IN YOUR LIFETIME) HAS BEEN THROUGH THE BLOW JOB TUG OF WAR BEFORE?

GIVING IT GIVES POWER, BUT MORE OFTEN TAKES IT AWAY ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY DON'T CALL AFTERWARDS. DISCUSS IT WITH YOURSELF, IF YOU WANNA GO THERE FIND OUT WHAT DOING IT MEANS TO THEM (IF ITS A MARRIAGE DEAL BREAKER OR JUST ASEXUAL ACT) AND FOR FU*K SAKE DON'T DRINK AND BLOW! AND IF YOU JUST WANNA HAVE FUN THEN HERE'S SOME POINTERS ON HOW TO FROM A FRIEND OF MINES * THANKS MISSEY*

Blow jobs should always be fun for both the giver and receiver. Use your hand at the base of the penis if it's just too much to take into your mouth, never use teeth unless your partner specifically says, "Sure, scrape it and see me BLEED", You can choose to use a lot of tongue around the shaft or quick and fast sucking up and down the shaft, or a combination of the two seems to put men in a coma, it's really quite the compliment. Another good thing to remember is to use your other hand to massage the balls lightly, at a light pressure so that he still has a sperm count of some kind the next day. Unless he likes it, don't suck right on the head, that's the most sensitive part and he'll be talking like a girl if you sit there and attack that thing like it's basking robbins or something. A blow job is what you make of it, make it fun for you, if you like your partner to say things to you while you give, then ask and ye shall receive. Ask them if you can swallow or not, or where to aim the come when he does, to avoid messes, always get their input, cause it all starts with the mouth, but every guy likes something a little different! Oh yes, don't expect the first one to garner you a medal or something. It really does take practice to attain full stamina and the ability to keep your jaw like that for so long, and you may need to train your gag reflex, but that will come later. LOL - just enjoy yourself, the first time may be "ew" but if you can find ways for you yourself to enjoy it, too, then it will be fun.

Hand jobs - use a lubricant if they are circumcised, and for uncircumcised use the foreskin to your advantage, take it and hold it and use that to move up and down the shaft. Happy Little Old People Note: to all you young'ns gettin' in on the fun please get tested for HIV/AIDS after sexual contact I don't care if you're madly in love with him/her or whatnot you never know. Missey.

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Ménage à trois

The French phrase ménage (household), à (of), trois (three) literally translates as "household of three." Simply put, a ménage à trois is a romantic relationship in which three people, such as a married couple and a lover, live together and have sexual relations;A living arraignment comprising three people in a sexual relationship. Alternatively,

a sexual liaison between such a group of people.

OK, IM FEELING VERY FRENCH ABOUT THIS SUBJECT....WHO FEELS THAT THIS ACT IS SOOO NOT ON THE LIST? AND HOW

MANY OF YOU FREAKS GET IT ON MENAGE A TROIS STYLE 6-8 TIMES A YEAR? THIS IS A SITUATION MEANT TO BE QUESTIONED BY ONES OWNSELF. HOWEVER, I DO THINK IF YOUR DOING IT TO PLEASE YOUR MATE/PARTNER THEN IT MAY NOT BE A GOOD IDEA ON YOUR BEHALF. JUST LOOK AROUND IN SOME CLASSIFIEDS, PEOPLE ARE REALLY INTO THIS...ALOT! OKAY SO NOW FOR THE REALLY BIG QUESTION: IS THREESOMES HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP BEHAVIOR? AND I POSE AN EVEN BETTER QUESTION: ARE MARRIED PEOPLE SUPPOSE TO HAVE THAT "KIND " OF SEX (NO JUDGEMENT) OR IS THAT JUST A CHEEP PLOY TO CHEAT?

IN MY OWN MARRIAGE, I CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT WE HAVE NEVER WENT "FRENCH" BUT ASKING THESE QUESTIONS SURE MAKES A RAISE OF THEE EYEBROW ^..UUUHHMM!

W.E.A.V.E.

Mission:
WEAVE works closely with adult and teen survivors of relationship violence and abuse, providing an innovative range of legal, counseling, economic and educational services that leads survivors to utilize their inner and community resources, achieve safety for themselves and their children and live empowered lives.

WEAVE's History
Women Empowered Against Violence, Inc. (WEAVE) was founded by American University law school students to provide holistic services to domestic violence victims in the District of Columbia. Having previously worked with domestic violence victims from a social work perspective, WEAVE's founders became interested in law to fill a gap in the services available to battered women. While they were student attorneys in the domestic violence clinic, the founders represented clients in civil protection order proceedings. They quickly learned that their clients needed more than temporary protection orders. Their clients needed long term legal representation for divorce and custody, as well as social service intervention for counseling, housing, and public assistance.
In 1996, WEAVE's founders conducted a community needs assessment of domestic violence victims in Washington, D.C. which confirmed their suspicions. The survey results revealed that many women were not receiving the wide range of legal services that they needed to achieve self-sufficiency and freedom from their abusers. Four specific gaps were identified: (1) no domestic violence legal services for the working poor who earn a salary above the poverty line; (2) a lack of support services that are targeted to non-immigrant domestic violence victims; (3) insufficient legal services for domestic violence victims who need long-term representation in divorce, custody, visitation, and other legal proceedings; and (4) an absence of counseling and social services specifically geared toward domestic violence victims.

Drawing upon the community needs assessment and their own experiences working with shelters and social work organizations, the founders created WEAVE, a non-profit that provides holistic services to victims of domestic violence. WEAVE officially opened its doors on September 22, 1997. WEAVE grew at first as a legal service provider, adding full time case management and counseling programs in 1999 to achieve the founders' vision of providing holistic services.

Philosophy
Holistic Service

In addition to diverse legal needs victims also face numerous economic barriers, such as securing public benefits, receiving employment training, entering or returning to the workforce, and finding adequate and affordable child care and housing. Moreover, victims are in crisis and need emotional support in the form of individual and group counseling. In order for victims to free themselves of the violence safely, all of the above obstacles must be addressed concurrently.

The holistic services model combines legal representation with counseling and social services so that clients can concurrently address their legal, emotional, and economic needs. Employing this holistic program ensures services are readily accessible and coordinated between attorneys, licensed clinical social workers, and mental health professionals. Through the holistic services model, WEAVE provides clients with the full range of tools necessary to achieve safety and self-sufficiency.

EmpowermentThe empowerment model emphasizes respect for clients. Clients must decide what course of action is best for them and be highly involved in their cases. This ownership is an essential part of empowering victims of domestic violence and providing them with a sense of control over their lives.
Although the holistic services and empowerment models are more time-consuming and labor intensive for both client and staff, WEAVE is committed to giving women tools to break the cycle of violence. The holistic services and empowerment models are also the first step toward self-sufficiency for many victims of domestic violence who have been emotionally, and often financially, dependent on their abusers.
Services Without Income RestrictionsMany legal service providers impose income restrictions on their clients. This leaves very few resources for women who earn a salary above the poverty line, but do not have the resources to retain a market-rate attorney. WEAVE utilizes a modest sliding scale for clients with incomes above the poverty line, and will help battered women, regardless of their income level.

INTRO TO "RELATIONSHIP FRIDAYS"

THIS IS A FRIDAY FORUM TO GET YOU READY FOR YOUR WEEKEND SOCIAL EVENTS. A LITTLE SOMETHING TO SET YOUR GOALS IN PLAY FOR WHAT YOU WANT THIS WEEKEND AS WELL AS WHAT YOU WANT FOR LIFE.

MONOGAMY

Seriously ladies, is it to be expected when not discussed? How can you be exclusive when the other persons definition of that word is not defined? One may think that if they are dating you, but still *BANGING* (for lack of a curse word) their ex....then its still monogamy because the ex was there first(before you). I know it sounds like B.S. but some people think like that. So I implore you, while having the time of your life being swept off your feet, put your values down and your bottom line into play. So many women *(more than men) are worried that they can scare a person off by telling them what your looking for, but just look at it this way...if you tell them and they in turn leave, that's less time that you wasted on them hoping they was Mr/Ms. Right when in actuality they were only Mr/Ms. Right now.

ARE YOU OBSESSED?

Obsessed: A Woman Scorned
Obsessive love is a form of love where one person is emotionally obsessed with another.

Definition
Moore and Buck believe that rejection is the trigger of obsessive love - also known as love addiction or relationship addiction. They state four conditions to help identify it, namely, a painful and all-consuming preoccupation with a real or wished-for lover, an insatiable longing either to possess or be possessed by the target of their obsession, rejection by or physical and/or emotional unavailability of their target, and being driven to behave in self-defeating ways by this rejection or unavailability.
Characteristics indicative of obsessive love are:
Obsessive lovers believe that only the person they fixate on can make them feel happy and fulfilled.
Persons close to the love-obsessed can also be greatly affected. Witnessing a friend or family member suffer from the disorder can be distressing.
The person obsessed cannot accept the other person to be happy when they are suffering.

Forms/stages of obsessive love
Obsessive love is a form of love where one person is emotionally obsessed with another.
Love addiction is a process addiction where a person becomes attached to another in an unhealthy, dependent manner.

Relationship addiction is a process addiction where a person becomes addicted to his or her relationship.

Codependency is a term used to describe when a person becomes dependent upon another for emotional and physical validation


Synopsis - Obsessed features a loving family who move into their new house and begin to live the American dream. Derek and his wife Sharon are a loving, committed couple who have a very honest marriage. At Derek’s office, a temporary secretary, Lisa, begins to make sexual advances. Although Derek rejects every advance, he doesn’t tell his wife about it.



Lisa, the temp, is emotionally disturbed. She believes that Derek is hers and will do whatever she can to steal Derek away. With every rejection, Lisa doubles her efforts, continuing to put Derek in situations making it harder and harder to resist her advances.



Meanwhile, wife Sharon begins to suspect something is wrong, and for the first time, doubts her husband’s faithfulness. As the stakes rise, Sharon confronts Lisa and it turns into a physical fighting match over Derek. Sharon becomes the movie’s heroine as her commitment to not consider divorce strengthens her resolve to make the marriage work.



Obsessed is a well made, thrilling drama that twists and turns as viewers get deeper into the mind of the temptress, Lisa. There are excellent performances by Idris Alba as Derek and Ali Larter as Lisa. The emotion is carried by their acting ability. Beyonce as Sharon struggles somewhat in her role, however.
Obsessed underscores the importance of marriage and fidelity in marriage. Derek, though perhaps unwise at times, is committed to his wife and struggles to fend off the advances by Lisa. This is a not-so-common message to come out of Hollywood.



However this is just a movie, but how many times does this happen in real life/your life? More then people like to admit, the illness that "Lisa" has is often taken to lightly and the warning signs are overlooked. A situation like this can be made into a worst one by letting it continue and all to soon it will end in death. There is nothing flattering about an obsession.

THE FLAWED WOMAN!!!!!

"A spiteful boss, a defiant employee, a manipulative mother, a desperate housewife, an envious sister…honey, we know these women. We’ve lived with them, worked with them, or caught a glimpse of them in our mirrors.

Now let’s take a look at their ancient counterparts in Scripture: Sarah mistreated her maidservant, Hagar despised her mistress, Rebekah manipulated her son, Leah claimed her sister’s husband, and Rachel envied her fertile sister.

They were far from evil, but hardly perfect. Mostly good, yet slightly bad. In other words, these matriarchal mamas look a lot like us." :Liz Curtis Higgs

How many of us today has done something that society would see as flawed?, how many of us are doing something, planning to do something that can be considered flawed?. The percentage if honest; is staggering. I implore you to take a gander at your life ...past and present, any flaws? I can honestly say yes! for my own life and even in the present and future it probably will be more , because just like some of the ladies of the bible; I am a flawed woman. I ask you all this not to be judgemental, on the contrary. But to break the barrier of woman hating/bashing of one another. We are the mothers of this earth and believe me no matter how we see fit to live our lives, there will always be a disapproving nose in the air to point out the flaws...{do you know that person?/ are you that person?} being a woman is hard enough without judgement, well some like to think that there's flawless woman out there...well think about all the things that can be flawless? makeup, airbrush, paint, shoes just to name a few, but what do these things have in common? they are a superficial items that are made to cover up flaws...NO ONE IS PERFECT and you don't have to be either.

Happy flaws!!!!!

PERFESSIONAL WOMAN OR JUST PERFESSIONAL?

So what is the difference between a professional woman or just a professional? uuhm touchy subject and yet im intrigued...*as my girl Kay would say ^ insert raised eyebrow here* ( hey Kay Callender). Anywho, how do we know where to draw the lines?, and is it possible to be seeing someone socially & sexually and just think of them as very generous? and if your dating someone and your at that point of sexual dates, would you expect money?

Well I have been in many dating scenario's and was given money after we had moved on to the sexual part of our courtship, but I didn't think nothing of it. I just always thought if you are spending time together and especially if sex is involved then it more of a nice jester than a payment,However asking for money or discussing a price can get your ass locked up...lol. Ask yourself these questions and determine your status for yourself.

Happy proffesionals!!!!!!!!!!!

****NEW****** EXTRA THURSDAYS!!!!!!

OK ladies, this will be a new thing on my blog, where on Thursday's I give you a little *extra blog * sometimes gossip, or maybe just a coupon for something fabulous. T his week I bring to you the Walgreen's memorial week circular with all kinds of goodies like.....50% all Revlon products, 20% off all Aveno products, 50% off L'Ore'al eye cosmetics and many buy 1 get 1 free, also they have started there annual fan sale with fans starting off at just $7.99. Walgreen's is a store near and dear to my heart, I love it ...shit it has been there for me twenty four hours more than most of the people I call friends...lol! so hurry and shop online or get to your nearest Walgreen's for your memeorial day specials!!!!!

*www.wwalgreens.com

Happy Extra Thursday!