INTRO TO "RELATIONSHIP FRIDAYS"

THIS IS A FRIDAY FORUM TO GET YOU READY FOR YOUR WEEKEND SOCIAL EVENTS. A LITTLE SOMETHING TO SET YOUR GOALS IN PLAY FOR WHAT YOU WANT THIS WEEKEND AS WELL AS WHAT YOU WANT FOR LIFE.

MONOGAMY

Seriously ladies, is it to be expected when not discussed? How can you be exclusive when the other persons definition of that word is not defined? One may think that if they are dating you, but still *BANGING* (for lack of a curse word) their ex....then its still monogamy because the ex was there first(before you). I know it sounds like B.S. but some people think like that. So I implore you, while having the time of your life being swept off your feet, put your values down and your bottom line into play. So many women *(more than men) are worried that they can scare a person off by telling them what your looking for, but just look at it this way...if you tell them and they in turn leave, that's less time that you wasted on them hoping they was Mr/Ms. Right when in actuality they were only Mr/Ms. Right now.

IN SEARCH OF..........

OK... SO MOST OF YOU ALL KNOW THAT I'AM COMPLETELY IN LOVE WITH SEX AND THE CITY, WELL NOT ONLY HAVE THAT SHOW MADE ME LAUGH AT LIFE AND ALL IT'S TROUBLES, ITS ALSO MADE ME APPRECIATE EVERYTHING. AND THE BEST THING IT HAS MADE ME INTO MORE OF A FASHIONISTA AS WELL AS A SEEKER OF FASHION TRENDS THAT BORDER ON BEING 'TOO DAMN MUCH" WHICH I DON'T KNOW THE MEANING OF ....I LOVE BIG AND GAUDY ITEMS. PURSES, HATS, JEWELRY,HAIR TO NAME A FEW. SO ITS ONLY NATURAL THAT I INSIST ON HAVING A FLOWER RING LIKE SAM'S *(YES I CALL HER SAM...SHES A FRIEND IN MY HEAD JUST LIKE WENDY!) ANYWAY I HAVE FOUND SOME BUT THEY ARE JUST NOT RIGHT SO I HAVE DEDICATED OUR WEEKENDS (FRANK AND I) TO FINDING MY FLOWER RING, ONE THAT SCREAMS ME...NOT SAMANTHA! SO FAR ABOVE IS WHAT I CAME UP WITH.

HAPPY FLOWER (RING) POWER!

EXTRA THURSDAY!!!!!!!!

*A NEW DRINK......A NUVO MOJITO MARTINI!!!!!!!

HOW TO MAKE THIS DELICIOUS COCKTAIL?

1 2/3 oz of RUM (white)
2 1/3 oz NUVO SPARKLING LIQUEUR
2/3oz/ 2cl fresh lime juice
fresh mint leaves
a dash oh gomme syrup


1.Place a few large cut sprigs of mint into a shaker containing white rum
*to infuse the rum with mint* shake and let sit
2.add ice cubes to shaker
3.then pour lime juice then add nuvo to fill
4.top off with a dash of gomme syrup
*in place of gomme syrup, grenadine will work as well*
5.stir ingredient's and replace shakers top

Strain into martini glasses with mint leave garnish
and enjoy!






HAPPY EXTRA THURSDAYS!!!!!

SHOPPING AND FOOD...TOGETHER AT LAST!

202


75 Ninth Ave., New York, NY 10011 near. 16th St. See Map Subway Directions 646-638-1173 Send to Phone

The line between food and fashion has become even blurrier with the opening of 202, a restaurant actually tucked into a high-end store for fashionable attire, housewares, and antiques from Paris and the South of France.

The whole affair is the brainchild of London-based designer Nicole Farhi, and resembles her Notting Hill store of the same name. The dark hardwood floor and ceiling in 202's warmly rustic space are set off by racks of clothing for men and women, glasses and tableware, and funky furniture—squat Deco club chairs, towering country cupboards, and etched-glass framed mirrors. The actual dining area has ancient tables and bentwood chairs, with a communal table that's said to be a relic of a French prison (ugh) and the round bar with mixed chairs for a french bisro feel. The Chef Annie Wayte's menu leans toward Mediterranean with a french flare, with starters like warm goat cheese salad and prosciutto, sweet figs, and complimentary toasted pistachios. Served on the lunch menu, lemon creme fraîche-daubed smoked salmon with blini-thin scallion pancakes, leading up to English favorites like crunchy fish and chips and the potato-cabbage medley bubble and squeak. Stefan (the bartender) signature cocktails like honey mojitos, with Ron Zapaca Rum, fresh mint, and honey ease the entire experience.

*We recommend— I had the warm goat cheese salad, which was $16 and had the tuna burger w/guacamole,$18;

My mom had the scallion pancake w/ smoked salmon and lemon crème fraîche,$13; ; and Frank had the fish & chips, $19 .....all was delicious!

Hours
Mon-Fri, 8:30am-11pm; Sat-Sun, 10am-11pm
Nearby Subway Stops
A, C, E at 14th St.; L at Eighth Ave.
Prices
$13-$19
Payment Methods
American Express, Diners Club, Discover, MasterCard, Visa
Special Features
Breakfast
Brunch - Daily

Dine at the Bar
Hot Spot
Lunch
Notable Chef
Take-Out
Alcohol
Full Bar
Reservations
Recommended

HAPPY FOOD/SHOPPING...LOL

ARE YOU OBSESSED?

Obsessed: A Woman Scorned
Obsessive love is a form of love where one person is emotionally obsessed with another.

Definition
Moore and Buck believe that rejection is the trigger of obsessive love - also known as love addiction or relationship addiction. They state four conditions to help identify it, namely, a painful and all-consuming preoccupation with a real or wished-for lover, an insatiable longing either to possess or be possessed by the target of their obsession, rejection by or physical and/or emotional unavailability of their target, and being driven to behave in self-defeating ways by this rejection or unavailability.
Characteristics indicative of obsessive love are:
Obsessive lovers believe that only the person they fixate on can make them feel happy and fulfilled.
Persons close to the love-obsessed can also be greatly affected. Witnessing a friend or family member suffer from the disorder can be distressing.
The person obsessed cannot accept the other person to be happy when they are suffering.

Forms/stages of obsessive love
Obsessive love is a form of love where one person is emotionally obsessed with another.
Love addiction is a process addiction where a person becomes attached to another in an unhealthy, dependent manner.

Relationship addiction is a process addiction where a person becomes addicted to his or her relationship.

Codependency is a term used to describe when a person becomes dependent upon another for emotional and physical validation


Synopsis - Obsessed features a loving family who move into their new house and begin to live the American dream. Derek and his wife Sharon are a loving, committed couple who have a very honest marriage. At Derek’s office, a temporary secretary, Lisa, begins to make sexual advances. Although Derek rejects every advance, he doesn’t tell his wife about it.



Lisa, the temp, is emotionally disturbed. She believes that Derek is hers and will do whatever she can to steal Derek away. With every rejection, Lisa doubles her efforts, continuing to put Derek in situations making it harder and harder to resist her advances.



Meanwhile, wife Sharon begins to suspect something is wrong, and for the first time, doubts her husband’s faithfulness. As the stakes rise, Sharon confronts Lisa and it turns into a physical fighting match over Derek. Sharon becomes the movie’s heroine as her commitment to not consider divorce strengthens her resolve to make the marriage work.



Obsessed is a well made, thrilling drama that twists and turns as viewers get deeper into the mind of the temptress, Lisa. There are excellent performances by Idris Alba as Derek and Ali Larter as Lisa. The emotion is carried by their acting ability. Beyonce as Sharon struggles somewhat in her role, however.
Obsessed underscores the importance of marriage and fidelity in marriage. Derek, though perhaps unwise at times, is committed to his wife and struggles to fend off the advances by Lisa. This is a not-so-common message to come out of Hollywood.



However this is just a movie, but how many times does this happen in real life/your life? More then people like to admit, the illness that "Lisa" has is often taken to lightly and the warning signs are overlooked. A situation like this can be made into a worst one by letting it continue and all to soon it will end in death. There is nothing flattering about an obsession.

HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THE FLAWED WOMAN!!!!!

"A spiteful boss, a defiant employee, a manipulative mother, a desperate housewife, an envious sister…honey, we know these women. We’ve lived with them, worked with them, or caught a glimpse of them in our mirrors.

Now let’s take a look at their ancient counterparts in Scripture: Sarah mistreated her maidservant, Hagar despised her mistress, Rebekah manipulated her son, Leah claimed her sister’s husband, and Rachel envied her fertile sister.

They were far from evil, but hardly perfect. Mostly good, yet slightly bad. In other words, these matriarchal mamas look a lot like us." :Liz Curtis Higgs

How many of us today has done something that society would see as flawed?, how many of us are doing something, planning to do something that can be considered flawed?. The percentage if honest; is staggering. I implore you to take a gander at your life ...past and present, any flaws? I can honestly say yes! for my own life and even in the present and future it probably will be more , because just like some of the ladies of the bible; I am a flawed woman. I ask you all this not to be judgemental, on the contrary. But to break the barrier of woman hating/bashing of one another. We are the mothers of this earth and believe me no matter how we see fit to live our lives, there will always be a disapproving nose in the air to point out the flaws...{do you know that person?/ are you that person?} being a woman is hard enough without judgement, well some like to think that there's flawless woman out there...well think about all the things that can be flawless? makeup, airbrush, paint, shoes just to name a few, but what do these things have in common? they are a superficial items that are made to cover up flaws...NO ONE IS PERFECT and you don't have to be either.

Happy flaws!!!!!

PERFESSIONAL WOMAN OR JUST PERFESSIONAL?

So what is the difference between a professional woman or just a professional? uuhm touchy subject and yet im intrigued...*as my girl Kay would say ^ insert raised eyebrow here* ( hey Kay Callender). Anywho, how do we know where to draw the lines?, and is it possible to be seeing someone socially & sexually and just think of them as very generous? and if your dating someone and your at that point of sexual dates, would you expect money?

Well I have been in many dating scenario's and was given money after we had moved on to the sexual part of our courtship, but I didn't think nothing of it. I just always thought if you are spending time together and especially if sex is involved then it more of a nice jester than a payment,However asking for money or discussing a price can get your ass locked up...lol. Ask yourself these questions and determine your status for yourself.

Happy proffesionals!!!!!!!!!!!

****NEW****** EXTRA THURSDAYS!!!!!!

OK ladies, this will be a new thing on my blog, where on Thursday's I give you a little *extra blog * sometimes gossip, or maybe just a coupon for something fabulous. T his week I bring to you the Walgreen's memorial week circular with all kinds of goodies like.....50% all Revlon products, 20% off all Aveno products, 50% off L'Ore'al eye cosmetics and many buy 1 get 1 free, also they have started there annual fan sale with fans starting off at just $7.99. Walgreen's is a store near and dear to my heart, I love it ...shit it has been there for me twenty four hours more than most of the people I call friends...lol! so hurry and shop online or get to your nearest Walgreen's for your memeorial day specials!!!!!

*www.wwalgreens.com

Happy Extra Thursday!

PERFECT vs. IMPERFECT?

Anna Wintour ordered Oprah Winfrey to lose 20lb before appearing on Vogue cover !!!!

She's told millions of women not to succumb to societal pressure to be thin, but Oprah Winfrey couldn't help but shed the pounds after Vogue editor Anna Wintour told her to get skinny for the cover of the magazine.
Even though the shoot was back in 1998, the revelation is sure to come as a surprise to Oprah's army of female fans who have looked up to the famously curvy Queen of Chat as an inspiration when dealing with their own weight.
Wintour revealed in an American TV show that she advised the famous talk show host to drop 20lb in order to grace the cover of the 'fashion bible'.

'It was a very gentle suggestion,' said Wintour, laughing. 'I went to Chicago to visit Oprah, and I suggested that it might be an idea that she lose a little bit of weight. I said simply that you might feel more comfortable. She was a trouper!'


Fat chance: Vogue editor Anna Wintour told Oprah Winfrey to shed 20lbs if she wanted to appear on the cover of Vogue

Oprah, now 55, took the fashion legend advice by going on a rigorous diet and exercise regime and she was later featured on the cover ago with the tagline: 'Oprah! A Major Movie, An Amazing Makeover.'

Oprah, who has famously struggled with her weight for years, recently said: 'My goal isn't to be thin. My goal is for my body to be the weight it can hold—to be strong and healthy and fit, to be itself.
'My goal is to learn to embrace this body and to be grateful every day for what it has given me.'
But the star also showed that although she preaches that women should embrace and accept themselves, she still struggles with her image.

'Here I stand, 40lb heavier than I was in 2006 (Yes, you're adding correctly; that means the dreaded 2-0-0.lbs),' she said recently. 'I'm mad at myself. I'm embarrassed. I can't believe that after all these years, all the things I know how to do, I'm still talking about my weight. I look at my thinner self and think, 'How did I let this happen again?'
But image-conscious Wintour, 59, also defended the use of Photoshop to make people 'look their best.'
'That's one of the things that makes me rather angry, that I don't understand," she said. 'That if you look wonderful, does that make you less important? Less powerful? Less serious?

Thats my question... "So after taking a wonderful photo that outlines you in every way, why would you alter it? ie: "photoshop it" don't you want that very picture to depict the true you in your own form? whats the point of taking a picture for people to see You and then changing it, to be Who? I think that is the true example of self pity. Being who you are and loving yourself truly.....means accepting just that...self love is so important in this anti-fat, plastic world and it is a shame that it is not preached enough, especially by two woman that so many hold as role models!

"BEING IMPERFECT IS WHAT MAKES ME PERFECT" because i love myself.

Happy loving yourself!

*headline story courtesy of Dominique Hines on 19th May 2009

IM BACK FROM MY BIRTHDAY HIATUS!!!!!!!

HELLO, I know I've been away long....but every diva need a vacation right, I tend to take mine around my birthday.

okay so yes! I had a fabulous time and had major growth. I developed a skill for discovering truths and myths, which I will share with you all in my coming post. so sit back, relax, and get ready!

happy cheers & welcome back greetings!