Obsessive love is a form of love where one person is emotionally obsessed with another.
Definition
Moore and Buck believe that rejection is the trigger of obsessive love - also known as love addiction or relationship addiction. They state four conditions to help identify it, namely, a painful and all-consuming preoccupation with a real or wished-for lover, an insatiable longing either to possess or be possessed by the target of their obsession, rejection by or physical and/or emotional unavailability of their target, and being driven to behave in self-defeating ways by this rejection or unavailability.
Characteristics indicative of obsessive love are:
Obsessive lovers believe that only the person they fixate on can make them feel happy and fulfilled.
Persons close to the love-obsessed can also be greatly affected. Witnessing a friend or family member suffer from the disorder can be distressing.
The person obsessed cannot accept the other person to be happy when they are suffering.
Forms/stages of obsessive love
Obsessive love is a form of love where one person is emotionally obsessed with another.
Love addiction is a process addiction where a person becomes attached to another in an unhealthy, dependent manner.
Relationship addiction is a process addiction where a person becomes addicted to his or her relationship.
Codependency is a term used to describe when a person becomes dependent upon another for emotional and physical validation
Synopsis - Obsessed features a loving family who move into their new house and begin to live the American dream. Derek and his wife Sharon are a loving, committed couple who have a very honest marriage. At Derek’s office, a temporary secretary, Lisa, begins to make sexual advances. Although Derek rejects every advance, he doesn’t tell his wife about it.
Lisa, the temp, is emotionally disturbed. She believes that Derek is hers and will do whatever she can to steal Derek away. With every rejection, Lisa doubles her efforts, continuing to put Derek in situations making it harder and harder to resist her advances.
Meanwhile, wife Sharon begins to suspect something is wrong, and for the first time, doubts her husband’s faithfulness. As the stakes rise, Sharon confronts Lisa and it turns into a physical fighting match over Derek. Sharon becomes the movie’s heroine as her commitment to not consider divorce strengthens her resolve to make the marriage work.
Obsessed is a well made, thrilling drama that twists and turns as viewers get deeper into the mind of the temptress, Lisa. There are excellent performances by Idris Alba as Derek and Ali Larter as Lisa. The emotion is carried by their acting ability. Beyonce as Sharon struggles somewhat in her role, however.
Obsessed underscores the importance of marriage and fidelity in marriage. Derek, though perhaps unwise at times, is committed to his wife and struggles to fend off the advances by Lisa. This is a not-so-common message to come out of Hollywood.
However this is just a movie, but how many times does this happen in real life/your life? More then people like to admit, the illness that "Lisa" has is often taken to lightly and the warning signs are overlooked. A situation like this can be made into a worst one by letting it continue and all to soon it will end in death. There is nothing flattering about an obsession.
